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Saturday, July 31, 2010
Girls i would say are the most complicated creatures on earth. and when they fall in love it will be much much worst. sometimes it gets so twisted till we ourselves don't understand why we're behaving this way. girls reading this i know you feel me and possibly can't agree more. sad to say men(martians) who are from MARS do not really understand the language and behaviour of us(venusians) -VENUS. So once upon a time, there was a little girl who fell in love with a martian. not all martian are the same, some understood venusians a little bit more due to experience, some lacked of experience while some are in the middle trying to work hard by understanding and learning from experience. 1 thing that puzzles me most is the behaviour of venusians- girls basically when. they. fall. in. love. the amount of security through attention they need after they got attached to martians. of course before getting attatched time, attention, love and loads of TLC was lavished on the venusian. even if the martians had to pluck a million stars from the night sky they will do and willingly do so without further ado. but the story starts to have a different plot once they get together, generally the attention is there but sometimes the attitude towards each other is different. small sweet little things that were once given to the venusian are slowly fading and becoming shorter and more dilluted in sweetness - (note that this makes girls feel unloved and uncared for) no longer is the excited sparkle in the eyes when they meet, daily activities start to become routine and there is lesser enthusiasm when meeting the loved one. in a long term relationship all the above is inevitable and i agree especially with routine. but what venusians are looking for is the effort that is put in to sustain and keep the flame going because of the love for her that initially made her agree to commit in this special relationship. it takes 2 hands to clap and when the thrill recedes in a relationship, both parties have a part to play in keeping the flame alive. love itself is not enough to sustain a relationship - especially a long term one. here's something that i've read online just now which i think it's a great article to share around... .. " We tend to assume that a relationship must work of its own accord,' says Joerg Wesner, a psychologist who counsels couples in Hamburg. 'Actually this hands-off approach is what make a relationship deteriorate.' This is a feeling which creeps up on couples who feel they know everything there is to know about the other person - and that's when the interest, the little presents start to vanish along with the little surprises, the compliments and the gestures of tenderness. Regardless of age this phase is usually accompanied by a marked drop in intimacy, with love-making typically declining by half, said Nuber " and the answer is??? have frequent dates with your partner, do similar activities together to remind each other what originally attracted them to each other and behave the way you used to in a courtship( WHERE is all my sweet little gifts/surprises?? :P ) actually the venusians don't really expect much, because it's those little things that counts and we're ultimately talking about effort. simple right? so martians out there please pull up your socks.the actual test of maintaining a relationship is not when it just started, when you go headoverheels and deeply intoxicated with your new prince charming. it starts when the honeymood period is over and when you start to see the real person you're in the relationship with. of course you've to accept the person for who he is but then more often than not martians start to "slacken" down to decrease the workload that they have to continue in order to sustain and create new flames for the relationship. it is not easy but it can be done and whether or not both are willing to work towards a common goal. i think i pretty much summed up the thoughts inside my head. girls just want to be loved, cherished, respected and doted on only. that's quite simple right? for martians who loves their very own venusian. ps: i hope mine will over-love me too. soon. 12:37 PM
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